Loving Life Today
Have you ever stopped?
Just stop for a moment. Reflect on where you are at this moment in time. You might be in a real downhill slope, or even on the bottom of the darkest pit and you’re wondering where is up and where is down.
You might be living the dream and on your way to get to achieve the goals that you’ve been working towards for a very long time.
Whatever it is, wherever you are in life, it’s important to stop and reflect on where you are, how you got there and why you ended up where you are today.
The reason why I suggest this simple exercise, is because it’s important to first of all, understand and accept your current situation, whether it’s a good place or a not so good place and where you want to go from there.
Someone very special once told me that each one of us were born either in light or in darkness. However, whether we were born in light or in darkness, we all have two options in life to choose from:
1. Move towards light.
2. Move towards darkness.
Born in light
I was born in light.
I was lucky enough to be born into a loving and caring family in a beautiful little town in the northern part of Sweden. I grew up somewhat spoilt with love from family and close friends, as well as having close access to natural surroundings such as forests, the ocean, lakes, parks and playgrounds.
Sounds like a perfect childhood, right?
If you also were born in light you may as well know that life is not as perfect as it seems on the surface. Life is not as perfect as it seems on social media. Life is only as good as what we make it to be.
When we have everything given to us, we believe that life is easy and we might take things for granted. Well..surprise surprise, when we turn 18 we finally realise that things are no longer given to us on a silver plate, life is more complicated than that.
As little kids, we believe that we are immortal and that our parents and grandparents will always be there with a shoulder to cry on. However, when we grow older we realise that also our loved ones grow older, that life is fragile.
Now, what do we do about it?
Do we start banging our heads against the wall, drink until we fall flat on the floor and accuse God for the way that things turn out in life? NO, we don’t put our lives in the hands of another person, not even God, we take charge of our lives and make the necessary changes in order to get where we want to go.
We were born in light, but we can easily move towards darkness.
We can’t change the aging process, the harsh reality is that one day we all will get sick and die. Sorry for this morose view of life..but it’s the truth. When we finally accept the truth, we can start to embrace life more deeply than before, love ourselves and others more deeply than before and appreciate things more deeply than before.
We have the option to continue moving towards light. Love and gratitude, regular appreciation of what you have and who you are will help you immensely in this process.
One of my favourite books – Siddhartha – the king who became a monk, who became enlightened, who became Buddha, realised that even if you have everything in terms of material value, life can be very empty and hollow and full of suffering.
How we deal with the suffering is up to us.
Light or darkness…it’s up to us what we choose.
Born in darkness
I know people who were born into a less favourable world but who live a very bright life today. I also know of people who have dealt with major traumas in life and didn’t continue down the spiral, but who chose to break free and make something positive out of it. But I also know of people who were born in a dark place and who still struggle with the darkness that traps them.
The key takeaway from this story is that you have the choice to stay in your miserable pile of dung, black hole or whatever you want to call that negative place. You also have the choice to find a way out by focusing on the light at the end of the tunnel.
Mindset is key
It doesn’t actually matter whether you were born in light or in darkness, because in reality life is a heck of a journey of ups and downs, highs and lows, enjoyments and disappointments, positives and negatives, happiness and suffering…it’s how we deal with them that matters.
We can use our mindset to improve our external world, our circumstances, our reality. It’s such a powerful tool that we haven’t explored enough. What we believe about ourselves, others and our reality is so important for health, prosperity and wellbeing.
There is a very interesting TED talk on the power of mindset. In this talk, Dr Alia Crum explains the placebo effect and what it really is. She brings up studies that demonstrates the ability of our mindsets to recruit healing properties in the body, if we believe or expect that our bodies will heal.
You were born with a gift – and responsibilities
The fact that you were born is a gift itself. You were one of a billion who managed to reach the egg and was thus offered the gift of life on this beautiful planet.
With life comes the gift of breathing. If we can breathe properly and are not suffering from asthma or other respiratory diseases, we should be grateful. Imagine the pain if you suddenly were not able to inhale fully, not able to take a long, deep breath..those are the things we usually take for granted, until one day when even breathing becomes a challenge.
We tend to worry so much about how we look and appear to others, but why?
If you have two legs and two arms, you can walk, run and dance, you can swim in the ocean and walk up and down the stairs, you have eyes to see with and ears to hear with, you can smell when spring is in the air, when flowers bloom and lawns are being mowed.
Only when we lose the ability to see, we realise what a gift are eyes are to us. Only when we lose the ability to walk, we realise what a gift our legs and feet are to us. Only when we lose an arm, we realise what a gift our hands are to us.
Life is a gift, including your body. If you have two arms or one arm, give yourself a hug and say “I love you”, because you are beautiful and you deserve to be appreciated just for being who you are.
With life comes also a few responsibilities…
LIVE IT – don’t waste it by wishing for the things that you don’t have, but appreciate the things that you have today.
LOVE IT – don’t hate yourself or parts of yourself, because you were born perfect, love yourself and share the love.
LEARN FROM IT – life is a learning curve, don’t punish yourself for the things you didn’t know yesterday, but use it to grow.
Take away thoughts…
On your roller-coaster journey of life, over mountains and through deep valleys, don’t just keep tramping on but remember to stop, not just once but many times and look back at what you have achieved.
Look to see where you have come from, where you currently are and where you are heading.
Ask yourself the question: Am I moving towards light, or am I moving towards darkness?